Stop using the “S” word!


Sometimes parents annoy the shit out of me.  I probably annoy the shit out of other parents as well so I’m not going to deny my annoying tendencies to post thousands of pictures and videos proudly displaying my son and his inherent cuteness.  I’m probably the most annoying of all!  But I’m not here to talk about me, I’m here to talk about you…or maybe not you…but definitely some of you who are bound to lay your eyes on this.

What REALLY annoys me is when parents brag about how smart and ahead of the game their child is.  My husband is even guilty of it and I have to firmly remind him why he shouldn’t do that.  He’s gotten much better.  If you scroll through my Facebook and Instagram you will never once see ME refer to my child as smart or the best or way ahead of the game…you’ll see a ton of other people say it about him, but never me.  Why?  Because I don’t want to give my child an ego.  I want him to always strive to do better because he works so damn hard at it and that’s what I love so much about him, his drive. I also don’t want to compare him to another child because every single child learns and develops at their own rate.  Every. Single. One.  No child is better than another because you think they are the most intelligent creature God ever created.  I also know what milestones are meant for, and they are certainly NOT meant for bragging.

A child is not born smart or ahead of his milestones.  And smart is really just a relative term.  Also, a child who has the means to build on their foundation, with the help of his or her parents and caretakers, is vastly capable of being ahead of these “milestones” doctors set which are simply the least or expected things a child should be able to achieve by a certain age before becoming concerned about developmental delays.  They are simply measurement tools to ensure there is nothing going on that can’t be physically seen.  They are in no way shape or form a stepping stone for parents to rub “smarts” in everyone’s faces.  Your child can crawl, (s)he’s so SMART!  No, your child doesn’t have a physical disorder that would prevent them from crawling, you are lucky to not have to intervene…smarts have NOTHING to do with it, human instincts to crawl and being physically capable does.

Your child may be smashing all these milestones really early, mine did too, but some don’t develop that quick and some have certain conditions that don’t allow them to smash them like we were fortunate enough to.  These developmental milestones are in place to look for signs that your child doesn’t have a condition that would involve intervention and further medical diagnostics to determine what is going on.  Hello…this is how they discover when babies are hard of hearing!  Get off your high horse and stop giving your child an ego so early…they are working hard to learn everything all at once, instead of bragging why don’t you work with them to develop into kind and well mannered human beings who work hard to achieve both your and their own goals in life.  The world needs more humbleness and less showboats.  I don’t know when or why medical diagnostics on well visits turned into a competition of smarts.  I’ll take it all back if you can show me your 4 month old doing long division, but I won’t hold my breath waiting.

And if you are on the other side of the fence and think your child is not intelligent, step back a second.  Toddlers and children love to tease us old folk.  If you want something so hard in every breath of your being, your child will pick up on it and tease you with it.  If there are no diagnosed developmental delays, chances are your child is messing with you.  They are all sponges and will only do what they want to do.  You just have to find a way that makes it fun for them…playing is learning, too.

Now if you excuse me, I’m going to continue praising my child for his hard work and not shout from the rooftops he is so smart.

End Rant.

Also, for those who use the term “smart” to their child, this is a very good read on why you shouldn’t use the “S word”.

https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2015/06/the-s-word/397205/

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Baby Joey – 5 Months


What a productive last month it has been!  On top of working 50+ hours a week from home, grad school, and taking care of the baby I have just gotten a little crazier…we are MOVING!  This is an awesome move as it will be closer to the baby’s closest relatives – my mom, all my brothers and sisters, and nephews and nieces will all be in very close proximity to our new home and we are so excited to be doing this!  They have been the biggest help for us even being 100 miles away so it makes sense to move closer to the ones who help out 🙂

As far as baby goes, solids are interesting for him!  He’s loving a majority of the foods…and I am making them all myself!  We tried some of the jarred foods in a pinch and for traveling and he does not enjoy them…he much prefers home made and I don’t mind making them at all because at least I know how everything is being prepped and cooked and there are zero preservatives in them.  It’s much cheaper, too.  Right now he is on green veggies and by next week we are going to introduce him to some fruits!

We are awesome at rolling from back to belly and belly to back and he can do it going left and right, he’s amazing on his feet…always putting weight on it but obviously requires assistance as he has no balance yet.  He’s not interested in sitting…he’d much rather stand so we are working on some floor exercises to help him with sitting.  He did scare me though as he is able to lift his upper body off the ground and lunge over so safety is even more important now since he has built up quite a bit of strength.

Teething is still strong with this one, gums are now white and hard, too…could still be a while, though.  I did notice an attitude difference on days he is not wearing his amber necklace (we do not put it on him going to day care…I’m a crazy worrier) so I think it is actually helping with the pain levels.  And there’s drool…man is there drool!  He’s like a waterfall!

Still has quite a bit of acid, the dosage has been increased again.  He’s using his tummy muscles a lot so I expected the acid to increase before it decreased.  Once his tummy muscles are fully formed I assume that the acid will start to decrease.  If you miss his dose by just a few minutes, though, it is spit up city!

I think the craziest accomplishment has been within the last week…he’s been repeating dada quite a bit and I actually caught it on camera.  Yesterday I kept saying “daddy” to him to see if he would try the hard “e” sound but of course he didn’t try and I didn’t expect him to.  This morning he actually said daddy.  I can’t believe that at 5 months old he said “daddy”.  He really is a bionic baby!